stoutin’ it on a Tuesday night with some great ass friends
Heaven Knows I’m Miserable Now by The Smiths
In my life
why do I give valuable time
to people who don’t care if I live or die
parents: get that communist trash out of the house
aesthetic: showing off the hottest phones in 2007 pop music videos
Since I haven’t seen any posts about it on Tumblr, I figured I’d make the post myself! #heardwhilstdisabled is a trending hashtag on twitter, has been on-and-off for awhile obviously, and it’s about the common, casual microagressions the disabled of all stripes have to deal with. It’s UK- and AU-based primarily from the looks of it but I would think it applies to most disabled people - I certainly know I’ve heard my share of this kind of ableism. Here’s more tweets (source is The Indepedant):
@DamonLord #heardwhilstdisabled “that’s so sad. That baby will grow up with a blind father. We should call Social Services on them” About me and my son
@Quinonostante #HeardWhilstDisabled: “mental illness could be eradicated though right?” Me: “how’d you mean?” The reply: “By sterilising people”
@Imbecillis #heardwhilstdisabled Person: “You don’t look disabled…” Me: “I’m sorry I didn’t realise the neon sign was compulsory these days.”
@RedRubyGem #heardwhilstdisabled My housebound daughter was told if she didn’t attend interview at job centre her benefits would be stopped
@lauraevans311 Learning about DMD [muscular dystrophy] – fellow med student: “If they’re only going to live that long, what’s the point in educating them?”#heardwhiledisabled
@major___tom ‘I don’t want to vaccinate my kids in case they end up autistic like you’ #heardwhiledisabled
@TwinsMa #Heardwhiledisabled “If you’d stop coddling him, he’d quit being so clingy.”– says a former pediatrician to me about my autistic son
@claireOT told I’m “a bloody disabled” by a taxi driver when refusing to pay an extra £2 to carry my scooter #heardwhiledisabled
@thebeardlessone “You won’t make any friends if you keep making noises” #heardwhiledisabled (Actually, he’s the only person to diss my tourettes to my face)
@latentexistence #HeardWhileDisabled While visiting psychiatrist for suicidal thoughts, in a wheelchair: “You just need to exercise more.”
@usherchic2 #heardwhiledisabled so do you just tell your guide dog the plan for the day in the morning & he sorts it all out? Me:……
@Geeketteuk “Hitler was wrong about the Jews but right about people like you” (thanks for not being anti-semitic !) #heardwhilstdisabled
@Fire_Rosa #heardwhilstdisabled At the Dentist with Husband and Carer, receptionist” What home do you come from?* my own?
@lizmcternan #heardwhilstdisabled at a buffet, me in wheelchair, helping blind friend choose: ‘You people take up so much room’
@PottsMcG #heardwhilstdisabled “Don’t stare at her, she’s not all there” as said about my 9 year old sister in law, who has down’s syndrome. Vile
@AvoidedDrowning Frequently been told off for using a walking stick because I’m “too young to need it” too #heardwhilstdisabled
@hypatia “you people shouldn’t use rush hour transport, it’s for people going to work”. (me in suit with backpack) #heardwhilstdisabled
@MatthewJFowler #heardwhilstdisabled. Your not albino you haven’t got red eyes
@sparklygoth #heardwhilstdisabled ‘You don’t look deaf.’ & that looks like what exactly?
@badfanfic “They’ll diagnose anyone with autism these days” – my doctor #heardwhilstdisabled
@CarrieBeckwith #heardwhilstdisabled “we don’t have a ramp cos we don’t get disabled customers” – prob cos they can’t get into our shop!
@Wheelchair_Dave #HeardWhilstDisabled Someone asked wife “Did you know when you married him 15 years ago, he may have an accident & become disabled”
@WTBDavidG #heardwhilstdisabled Office fire warden 3 “You’re so disabled we need you to wait before using stairs, but not so disabled u need an evac plan”
@Becca_Boot #heardwhilstdisabled bus driver lowering ramp “i don’t have to do this, im going out of my way to help you, you better behave on here”
@VictoriaMWright Man: “she.. (gestures at me) makes me wanna (makes vomitting sound)” #heardwhilstdisabled
@WelshWallace #HeardWhilstDisabled police officer to me after being mugged – your not going to be much help as your blind & not able to give a description
@MelG1804 When refused access to restaurant with guide dog, relative said they shouldn’t have to take dogs if they don’t want to. #heardwhilstdisabled
@touretteshero #heardwhilstdisabled I know what would cure you – an exorcism #Tourettes
@Beakboo #heardwhilstdisabled My Irish mother, when she saw an obviously disabled person, in a loud whisper “would you look at that poor creature”
@theeternal “I thought autism was only in children.”#heardwhilstdisabled
@ScottTweed #HeardWhilstDisabled my personal favourite was “if you’re mum had seen a medium when pregnant then you wouldn’t of been born disabled”
@cvonruhland #heardwhilstdisabled Elderly landlady: ‘Why do disabled people need ‘rights’? They’re disabled, aren’t they.’ Gobsmacked
@urbanhippie21 #HeardWhilstDisabled hubby, in a swanky Shoreditch bar – is there a disabled loo? Them – no. There’s no demand for one. Him – I’m demanding
@supermattachine #heardwhilstdisabled “Hahahaha it’s so funny when you freak out when I come up behind you”
wow I didn’t know fuckin chocolate eggs were gendered
OKAY LET ME TELL YOU A STORY ABOUT THE FUCKING PINK EGGS.
I work at a concession stand in an ice rink. We sell a bunch of chocolate bars and snacks and shit including Kinder Surprise eggs.
So one day this woman comes up to the counter with her two little kids, a girl who’s probably about 6 or 7 and a little boy, maybe 3 or 4. The mom asks what they want, the little girl points at the Kinder eggs and says “One of those!”. I asked if she wanted the white or the pink egg. She said pink. The little boy pointed to the Kinder eggs and says “One of those!”. I asked if he wanted the white or the pink egg. He said pink. HOLY SHIT IT WAS LIKE I OPENED THE GATES OF HELL. The mom absolutely FLIPPED and was like “YOU ARE NOT GETTING THE PINK EGG IT’S ONLY FOR GIRLS. YOU CAN GET THE WHITE ONE OR NOTHING AT ALL”. The little boy looked at his mom and said “But I want the same as ______ (whatever the sister’s name was)”. The mom completely ignored him and turned to me and gave me a death glare. “He can have the white egg.”
I had to give a little boy a white egg when he wanted the pink so that he could be the same as his big sister and he started crying. The mom just reiterated that the pink egg was for girls and told him that boys don’t cry.
And this is why we shouldn’t gender fucking chocolate eggs.
This is actually a relatively new thing, originally Kinder Eggs were all white like the ones on the left. I don’t know at what point they decided to make ‘girl’s’ Kinder Eggs, but I do not like it.
Holy shit do not even get me started on how moms constantly police their sons’ masculinity. I’ve seen mothers do it WAY more often than fathers.
I used to work at a bakery that specialized in creating custom cakes. We had this feature where we could print out any image off the computer and put it on a cake (with rice paper). One day this lady comes in and asks for an image we had of the baby Sesame Street characters. They’re all together with cake and confetti, and she asks, “Oh, well since it’s a boy, can you please change all of the little pink confettis into blue confetti? I mean, he’s a boy, you know.”
The fucking confetti.
It barely covered 5% of the image.
Another instance was when a lady asked me for an image of four superheroes to put on her son’s cake because her son was turning four. She admitted to not knowing any superheroes, so I offered the most obvious choice—The Fantastic Four. I pulled up a picture of them and she goes, “Oh no no, we can’t have that. Let’s do another one.” Confused, I pulled up a Justice League one with Batman, Superman, The Flash, and Wonder Woman. Again, she said no. I asked her if she needed anything specific (she didn’t know superheroes, why was she so picky?), and she just said, “Oh, it’s just that he’s a boy, you know? We can’t have a girl superhero on his cake.”
I nearly lost my shit. I did temporarily lose my customer service face and ask why, women have been superheroes all the time, Wonder Woman is iconic, etc etc and she was like, “It’s just that my son has been playing with Barbie dolls lately and I really don’t want him to end up… well, you know.”
This shit has got to stop. When you teach boys that certain things are only for girls, you’re limiting them and you’re teaching them that girls or “girly things” are bad. If you want gender equality as an adult, you better make DAMN sure that you’re teaching the same thing to your kids.
So this woman did not want her son to turn out ‘you know’ and her plan for that was to get him a cake with spandex-clad manly men AND ONLY MEN on it? I don’t think she thought that one through too well…
in sociology class we were talking about gender being assigned to objects and one of the male students started saying how forward thinking he is because he buys his daughter sports equipment and “boy toys”. I asked if he’d do the same if he had a son and he said “Of course I’d buy my son sports equipment”. I clarified “No, would you buy him dolls and other toys that are thought of as being for girls”. He turned around and didn’t answer.
Parents will pat themselves on the back for letting their little girls play baseball but a little boy with a Barbie is still considered an affront to society